And so I decided that the very best thing I could do was to give it a shot and see what happened--in part because I also felt fairly confident, upon reflection, that my friendship with Jake was strong enough to survive just about anything. " And indeed, it was not.)Still, the break-up--understandable and inevitable though it was--hurt. After all, if I couldn't make it work with this person I cared so deeply about, and got along so well with, how in the hell was I ever going to make It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.
If your friend is in a relationship that diminishes self-esteem, rather than enhancing it, pray earnestly and look for ways to build up and encourage your friend.
Look for an open door to discuss the dating relationship and what you see that may be harmful.
Make sure whomever needs the help gets some treatment, and then let the dust settle for a month or two. Did you ever start dating your best friend as you were helping him through the worst--or most exciting--transition in his life? xxx--------------------------*Not his real name.--------------------------PS: Staci: I love your story! I'm glad it worked out--good for you, for being bold enough to lay it on the line! Faith, I'm sorry things didn't work out with your friend, but it sounds like you have a great outlook on it.
If, after that, your feelings are as strong as ever, take the risk.4) Chemistry! And I think failed relationships really can teach us many valuable lessons that make it easier to make subsequent ones work. (Also, don't forget that even Harry and Sally broke up once before they finally got back together forever!
Christi said, “God had been at the forefront of my friend’s heart, but he was getting overshadowed by the new boyfriend and all his wonderful personal qualities.
It became clear to me that her own spiritual growth was suffering greatly, and I made the choice to talk to her about it.” “The words were painful for me to say and for her to hear,” Christi remembers, “and I wondered about the future of our friendship as I gently spoke my observations and feelings.” For the next few days, her friend spent some time talking with God and examining her own heart and motives.
I also wondered if my hesitation had to do with a (lingering? Yet, the lack of sexual heat was an indisputable fact.
) case of commitment-phobia on my part, rather than any real doubts about the situation at hand; maybe the supposed chemistry conundrum was just a cover for my fear of getting closer to him. (Trust me on that: About six months after we broke up, Jake said, "The sex really wasn't very good, was it?
We talked with some friends who have experienced this and shared their insights with us. Is the boyfriend or girlfriend a bad influence on your friend? Do you think your friend’s date is a bad influence?