"I always remind my clients: You've already had your kids and white dress moment, so there should be no rush to the altar again." Don't focus on finding the one; concentrate on meeting new people, developing new friendships, and having fun.
No matter what the age of the child, avoid a detailed account of why you broke up.
Your kids deserve an explanation, but shouldn't be your confidants."This is big nay for me when children are in the house," Zane says.
And Baumgartner says that single parents need to consider that this may be true.
"I tell clients that having some time for 'just themselves' is important," she says.
Instead, focus on topics that are easy to discuss and help you learn about each other.
Though you may be excited about a new relationship, be extra cautious about sharing this information with your kids.
Whether you're six months post-divorce or six years, there is no "right" time to start dating. If you're dying to get out of the house, call your girlfriends for a night out. If you're looking to get your heart pounding, try some cardio.
"Perhaps a better question than when is why," says Christine Baumgartner, relationship coach at The Perfect Catch. Expecting dating to fulfill all your needs is unrealistic and might attract (or cause you to accept) people who aren't right for you.
"In my coaching practice, I suggest that single moms do the inside work to get really clear about their wants, needs, values and beliefs and get in touch with their intuition," says Kerri Zane, single-mom lifestyle expert and author of It Takes All 5: A Single Mom's Guide to Finding the Real One.