As the below chart shows, meeting strangers through a dating app or at a bar is replacing contexts like school, church, and work.To understand why, imagine four college graduates moving into a new apartment.Do acquaintances overlook physical appearance because they know each other’s personality and unique attributes?
Over time, personality had more of an impact on how desirable someone was. Their rankings reflected their personal preferences about the non-physical attributes of the other people in the class.
Where one classmate might find a student’s earnestness in class endearing, another might dislike it.
At the start of the semester, they asked students in small classes to rate the desirability of their classmates.
(Desirability could incorporate non-physical attributes as well as good looks.) When the researchers looked at the ratings, they found that most students agreed on who was hot and who was not.
If that’s the case, it doesn’t seem like beauty is in the eye of the beholder for online daters.
Because like the couples in the study that were equally attractive, they never know their matches before they start dating.
Which is interesting to think about as dating apps, which match strangers up for dates, take over the dating world.
Because if more and more people meet their future spouse on a first date, the mixed-attractiveness couple might just go extinct.
This apartment has a room in the basement that 3 of the friends hate, but that one person loves because it has its own bathroom.