Being equal in a relationship means sharing the power, for example, not bossing one another around. If you’re trying to contact your boyfriend or girlfriend 24/7 but they can hardly find the time to call you, your relationship may be unequal. These are signs of support, and it’s an important quality in healthy relationships. It’s a problem if you’re fighting all of the time, or if you say cruel things when you’re arguing.
And remember, physical fighting (punching, hitting) is NEVER okay.
him.” Then she marries him and in the not-too-distant future she becomes…well, miserable.
She’ll then come to someone like me for counseling.
Ultimately, that is what the dating process is for – to decide, based on what you have learned, whether or not to marry that person.
As people of the Christian faith – a faith that stresses hope for our future, despite the failings of our past – we oftentimes deliberately ignore a person’s past when deciding on a mate.
And doing so is not unfair, nor is it un-Christian.
I counsel people all the time who struggle with issues that go back to their past.And while everyone makes mistakes, some mistakes have consequences and ramifications that can follow us for the rest of our lives.Granted, God doesn’t hold our past mistakes against us if we come to him in true repentance, but those mistakes can still have consequences that may negatively affect our future relationships, particularly in a marriage.I often ask, “You didn’t see this before you were married?” Then she’ll tell me, “Yes, but I thought I could change him.” I think a lot of people are not being totally honest during the dating process. When you’re in an unhealthy relationship, you can feel confused, anxious, and unsure.