Male and female frustrations with dating

However, when Facebook investigated how many of its users did in fact meet their spouses in colleges, the analysis revealed something interesting.The men most likely to have met their wives in college were not those who attended schools that were majority female, but rather those that were majority male—which actually makes sense.But when women are in oversupply—as they are today at most U. colleges and universities—men play the field and women are more likely to be treated as sex objects.

“Everyone’s self-esteem takes a hit,” a young woman at 75%-female Sarah Lawrence College told me.

One reason: Sarah Lawrence men have little interest in exclusive relationships. It’s like they have their own free harem,” she grumbled.

And, no, it’s not the mostly male colleges where the hookup culture reigns supreme. Because the way today’s heterosexual college students describe sex and dating at their own schools matches up with the scholarly research on gender ratios and how they affect behavior.

As I explain in my book “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” when men are in oversupply, the dating culture emphasizes courtship and monogamy.

The young man told me he had had sex with more than 20 of his female classmates.

“There isn’t really a culture of monogamy or even dating here,” he offered.

According to Brunhild Kring, associate director of counseling and wellness services at 61%-female New York University, this gender imbalance on college campuses discourages traditional dating and promotes casual sex.

“In the last two decades, the gender ratio among college students has dramatically shifted,” Kring wrote in a 2012 article published by GROUP, the journal of the Eastern Group Pyschotherapy Society.

Had they attended 60%-female colleges, settling down would have been the furthest thing from these men’s minds.

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