Trial and error are one way to gain experience, but learning successful skills through a mentoring couple and adapting their ideas to one's own situation is a lot smarter.
Consulting like this quickly highlights what works, and what doesn't, in critical areas.
As a couple, we shared very similar strengths and weaknesses, with above-average cohesion and more structured relationship roles.
While not determining our decision to marry, this encouraging evaluation helped identify areas where we needed to grow before we remarried. Some describe this person as "a brain to pick, an ear to listen, and a push in the right direction." The Uncommon Individual Foundation, a mentor research and training organization, reports that mentoring is the third most powerful relationship for influencing human behavior after marriage itself and the extended family.
) As a Christian, these verses tell me that wise counsel first comes from the Lord in the Bible. Through Scripture and prayer, God can give you guidance about a prospective remarriage partner, as well as a competent marriage counselor to help you in your remarriage decision..
Marriage counselors aren't miracle workers or prophets who foretell which relationships last.
I have more insight than all of my teachers, for I meditate on your statutes" (Ps. In Isaiah, the prophesy of the coming of Jesus Christ describes him as "Wonderful Counselor." In promising the Holy Spirit, Jesus said: "And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another Counselor to be with you forever--the Spirit of truth" (Jn. Second Peter -21 tells us that Scripture does not have its origin in the will of man, but men spoke from God as this Counselor, the Holy Spirit moved them.
All Scripture is God-breathed and "is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work" (2 Tim. Insight into options and alternatives, and guidance in making the right decisions, will be most reliable coming from the One who loves you the most.
(Perhaps that's why I stress the need for all prospective remarriage couples to have realistic expectations and good communication!
)Our Report also revealed that we shared leadership in stable roles, using "somewhat democratic" discipline while changing and adapting when necessary.
Cheryl had a strong "We" focus on the relationship, very high closeness and loyalty scores, with above average dependency.